Let’s talk about coping during quarantine or lockdown. What you are feeling right now is perfectly normal. We are going through unprecedented times of uncertainty. There could be many difficult emotions you may be experiencing. Tiredness, sadness, discomfort, disappointment, anger, guilt, frustration, or loneliness are normal responses to abnormal conditions. So, try not to be so hard on yourself and feel what you are feeling without judgment. Acknowledge that you and everyone around you are feeling some kind of loss right now.
Each morning I mentally prepare myself to be in the present. I know, it’s easier said than done. It takes some time to get into the habit of checking in with self. So, when you think of self-care, think of deliberate acts of preservation. Audre Lorde said it best. “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” It is an often overlooked concept and is not so simple in theory. I have included some self –care tips to get you started.
1. Separate what you can and cannot control.
There’s an activity called the “Wheel of Control.” Here, you draw a circle in the middle of the paper, write down everything that you can control as they come to you. Then you draw another circle around the first circle and write down everything that’s out of your control (outside of the control circle) as they come to you.
Then try to think about and focus on things that are in your control.
2. Write down all of the positive things you did during the day.
Remembering and acknowledging the good in our lives is a powerfully positive action you can do for yourself. Take some time to write down everything positive you did in a day. Timing yourself presents a challenge and it helps build the skill.
3. Unplug for the day.
Unplugging can reduce stress. Both your brain and your body need to recover from technology and news outlets.
4. Acknowledge your feelings.
Emotions are there to help us figure out who we are and how well we are doing. Don’t judge your feelings. If you are feeling sad let yourself experience that emotion without taking down to your self and trying to figuring out why. Just feel emotions.
5. Walks in the park.
Many people experience nature as an environment where they can rest and recover from daily stress. Research suggests that green spaces could play an important role in protecting and promoting mental health by providing a calm, restorative, and serene refuge.
6. Plan to do something positive.
Spreading joy to someone else creates a sense of belonging and togetherness. Something as simple as an ” I’m just checking in message” will make someone’s day. Why not spread love.
7. Create a wall of things you are grateful for.
Are you looking to experiencing life in all its wonders? Taking the time to acknowledge what you are grateful for will lead you there. Create a wall out of post it or simply just resight – I am grateful for ___________________. I am grateful for _____________________. I am grateful for ______________________. Fill in the blanks a course.
8. Be still.
Whether you are bird watching or listening to moving water, take some time to yourself to just be. Do this by finding a quiet place to sit and notice your surroundings. See how many different sounds you hear, how many different colors you see, or different smells surround you or just sit still and feel the atmosphere around you.
9. Take longer showers and extra baths.
It’s a form of self-therapy or self-soothing and it has been known to help distress.
10. Watch a favorite movie.
Do you have movies or a favorite tv show that you can watch over and over again? Something that will make you laugh and cry tears of joy? I love escaping into a movie.
11. Stay in the present.
Remember the here and now. We often find ourselves worrying about the future and although some worry is healthy we are all going through a time where we just don’t know what’s in tomorrow. So try to focus on the day that your in and experience that day entirely.
Sleep is the number one area where you can improve your health.
13. Dance it out.
Have you ever heard a song and just had to move? No time like now to let loose! Dance your stress off! Find a youtube video teaching the lastest move and when all this over and we are back gathering break lose and empress the masses.
14. Create a vision board.
A dream board or vision board is a collage of images, pictures, and affirmations of one’s dreams and desires, designed to serve as a source of inspiration and motivation, and to use the law of attraction to attain goals.
This is a great way to visualize your goal.
15. Energize your body.
By drinking lots of water and stretching daily, you release the stress stored in your body.
16. Stay connected.
Another great way of coping is to forgive those that may not respond the way you would like during these times. No one knows how to react during an event that has never happened before. If you can, reach out and check-in during this time.
Be there for someone.
17. Take care of a plant.
It’s been proven that taking care of plants can help improve stress levels.
18. Journal or Doodle.
Can you imagine colorful pens or drawing markers? Let it out, whatever put down on paper during these times will be a historic first-person account.
Recently there has been a huge trend in adult coloring books. Sites like Etsy.com sell coloring books for every lifestyle, niche, and /or kink. Coloring is relaxing and stressless.
20. Learn something new.
I recently purchase a happy calendar. Love it! It’s like scrapping booking while organizing your life. There are a lot of videos on YouTube.com. on how to build the perfect happy calendar to fit your lifestyle if you are interested. And you can find diverse inserts on Etsy.com. So, this is something new for me. What is yours?
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